Modesty Is A Principle That Is Important

Published Date: 02 Nov 2017

1.0 Introduction

1.1 Question 1

Modesty is a principle that is important because it involves not just how we dress and behave, but also what is in our hearts and minds. It isn't just about "covering up," but it challenges how we see ourselves in the world around us, our concept of beauty, what we think about, and how we act. All of these are then portrayed outwardly in how we dress. To understand modesty is to understand that you are striving to be a person who sees herself as a temple of God and desires to not distract those around you from seeking righteousness. If you're looking for help on how to develop a more modest mindset, the information here will help you get a good start.

Modesty is a concept that is entirely foreign to the world around us. Modesty is important to think about because it affects us as women, and it also affects the boys, men, and brothers in the with whom we interact. This kit contains information, responses to frequently asked questions and common misconceptions about modesty. It also contains scriptural guidance, and tips to help apply the biblical principle of modesty in your life. The article is written primarily for women because, although men can certainly be immodest, the real temptation and problem of immodesty typically surrounds feminine beauty. And modesty isn't just about clothes; it's about your mind and heart, too that’s why it's so important.

1.2 Question 2

Divorce Rates have been increasing at an alarming rate and posing threats for the society and also affecting the whole culture and traditions that have been controlling the society since primeval time. It has now become a child's game to marry and then dissolve the marriage by signing on a few legal papers as the law is straight forward in most of the countries. Who is responsible for it? It is a big question with varied set of answers that differ from individual to individual and case to case. Divorce or dissolving a marriage is a process leading to cancellation of responsibilities, oaths and duties in a marriage and require a legal cancellation of the bonds of marriage. Divorce has got different dimensions in different countries according to law vested there. As for example in western countries divorce only cancels the marital status but does not make it null where as in eastern countries divorce nullifies the marriage completely after decision and agreement on who will take the children, division of property ,money etc. We will now discuss some of the prime factors for divorce.

2.0 Body

2.1 Question 1

There are many misunderstandings about the subject of modesty. Modesty is often considered in extremes either you dress without giving any thought to your appearance or you are expected to wear ugly, loose, unattractive clothing in order to fit a supposed "ideal." Neither extreme is balanced. To live modestly does require more thought about your standards and the acceptability of your clothing. It also often requires more patience, as modest, fashionable clothing can be difficult to find. On the other hand, modesty doesn't require that you hide your form entirely by wearing clothing that makes you look and feel unattractive. Women in countries who show nothing but their eyes can still have men lusting after them.

2.1.0Why should dress modestly

Is dressing modestly just an outdated cultural standard from the 50s? Turn on the television, go to the movies, or flip through the pages of just about any magazine and it appears that our society has lost the value of modesty. People dress in clothing and styles that are designed to reveal and to bring considerable attention to their bodies. To suggest that we need to dress with modesty is often looked on as "restraining" or "limiting our freedom." however, overlooks the personal rewards of living and dressing modestly. Modesty in dress sends a message of purity and honor. It puts an emphasis on and values the inner person over outward attractiveness. It says that a person is worth far more than what meets the eye.

2.1.1 Modesty and Asexuality

Modesty is not the same as asexuality, but, unfortunately, our culture requires the myth that the two are related to be thoroughly debunked. It has been suggested that women who dress modestly do so because they are asexual that is, not attracted to anyone and with no interest in or desire for sex. This idea is absolutely and completely wrong. There is a very small percentage of society that would consider themselves "asexual. Among those who claim to be asexual, there is no way to tell who they are the way they dress certainly does not identify them as asexual. Sadly, the age we live in, which has an unashamed fixation on sexuality and impacts how women dress, would lead anyone to think that if a woman does not wear revealing clothes, she is part of a small minority of asexual. Discretion. Women who exercise modesty will be beautiful lovers but only for their faithful, godly husbands.

2.1.2 Femininity

One important fact is that no matter what your size or shape, if you are a woman, then you have the ability to attract and distract a man. It's a common misconception that modesty is really only important for girls and women who have "good" figures or are obviously attractive. This just isn't true. Men are attracted to the female form, and the particulars are less important. Each body type attracts someone, so the importance of a modest lifestyle is relevant to all women, regardless of shape or size.

 2.1.3Tips on dressing modestly

"When bending over in a loose-fitting or scoop-neck blouse, always place your hand over the neckline.

"When wearing a button-down blouse, stand sideways and look at the buttonholes in a mirror.  If they spread too far apart or gape too much, you'll expose your chest.  Pin between the buttons if you need to.

"For all blouses, be conscious about your bra showing.  Be especially careful with the armholes or straps of sleeveless blouses.  Just the sight of your undergarments can cause a guy to stumble.

"When wearing a dress or skirt, always stand in the light and check if you need a slip.  Even a lightweight black dress can reveal your silhouette (in other words, be see-through).  Your best bet is to always wear a slip.  And if you can't find a slip short enough for your skirt, chances are your skirt is too short!

"When wearing a skirt or dress, always is conscious of the way you're sitting.  You may think I don't need to mention this obvious fact, but you'd be surprised how often girls fail to sit modestly.

"When wearing a skirt, be aware that changing positions will cause your skirt to bunch or pull.  Smooth your skirt down when you sit down or stand up.

"When choosing a bra, remember that lace and seams will show through many tops.  Choose a seamless or smooth bra whenever possible.  (And remember, it's almost pointless to wear a bra if the material of your blouse is too thin.  I don't have to tell you what happens when you get cold.  Protect yourself with a thicker material.)

"The best advice I could give you is to stand in front of a mirror before you go out.  Bend over, turn side to side, turn around, and check everything.  Be aware of what different kinds of clothing can reveal.

2.2Question 2

A divorce happens after a husband and wife decide not to live together anymore and that they no longer want to be married to each other. They agree to sign legal papers that make them each single again and allow them to marry other people if they want to. It might sound simple, but it's not easy for a husband and wife to decide to end a marriage. Often they spend a long time trying to solve problems before deciding to divorce. But sometimes they just can't fix the problems and decide that a divorce is the best solution. Change is a natural part of life, but when it happens to your family, it is sometimes really hard to deal with. Sometimes both parents want to divorce, and sometimes one want to and the other one doesn't. Usually, both parents are disappointed that their marriage can't last, even if one wants a divorce and to live apart more than the other.

2.2.0Factors

The three factors play the key role in making and breaking of marriages..

Alcohol and tobacco addiction where one partner dislikes them and can't tolerate them beyond a limit leads to quarrels and mental disturbance causing partners to quit from the relationship. Physical and social abuse as those resulting from dowry have broken many houses and also caused many deaths. When the career and personal goals clash develops adverse situations and it is surely increasing in today's scenario. In today's culture both men and women shall be working. Women by nature are less affected by the inequity in pay. They generally are happy in the success and growth of their husbands and even leave their job to manage household. On the other hand most men cannot stand if women earn more than them or women are more successful and thus impose restrictions on them.

Incompatibility issues often hinder relationships. Intellectual incompatibility makes the smarter person to feel frustrated and also make the less intellectual person frustrated failing to match the high standards of the other. Again men are more prone to this syndrome than women. Mental or physical illness may also lead to divorce. This hinders normal communication and many times the other partner starts looking for someone else. Religious beliefs, lifestyle differences and culture of one partner may clash with that of other. Intolerance due to such orthodox natures may make the marriage vulnerable to divorce. The family members particularly the elders often criticize on such grounds and may even make life of the person miserable.

Financial problems are also the key factors leading to divorce. Many people tend to divorce and marry those who are rich, to enjoy all the pleasures of life using money. Criminal behavior of an individual may also falter relationships. No one wishes to spend a life with a criminal with no self respect and low image in the society. There are always some people who are jealous of a strong loving relationship and are always in lookout to induce conflicts in them

Why divorce

Infidelity

Infidelity is the cause of many divorces. Although it is usually a symptom of other problems in a marriage, the effects can be long-lasting, and some spouses who've been cheated on find it too difficult to bounce back after an affair.

Infidelity creates a number of problems: broken trust; risk of sexually transmitted diseases; wondering whether the cheating spouse will be able to change; worry about whether the cheating spouse will leave the marriage for the other person; embarrassment; guilt; anger.

Emotional Disconnect

Over time, couples can become emotionally disconnected if they're not actively trying to fulfil each other’s emotional needs. For some couples, this disconnect has always been present, mainly because they're not in a compatible marriage. Individuals in these unions are more worried about their own best interests, rather than what is best for the marriage.

There are things that can be done to repair emotional disconnection in a marriage, but it takes time and effort from both partners. If only one spouse is making an effort and investment in saving the marriage, the situation will likely lead to divorce.

Traumatic Incidents

Sometimes, things happen that are so traumatic in the lives of a married couple that they are overwhelmed and consumed by the situation. Their marriage suffers as a result, and they end up divorcing. Examples of such incidents include miscarriage, untimely death of a parent or child, and one partner becoming severely injured or disfigured in an accident.

Couples who experience such traumatic events should seek counselling or therapy, either separately or together, to deal with their feelings before they manifest themselves into the marriage.

Trust Issues

When there is no trust, it is hard to keep a marriage strong or even to keep it going. Trust issues can be caused by infidelity or one partner hiding secrets, such as credit or financial troubles, from the other.

Emotional Affairs

Emotional affairs are similar to physical infidelity, except an emotional affair is more likely to result in one partner deciding to leave the marriage for another person. When a spouse is having sex with another person, they may still want to keep their family intact if possible. But when the connection outside the marriage is emotional, people begin to question why they're married in the first place, since they've fallen in love with someone else.

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is a cause of divorce, and it is very easy to understand why--when one spouse physically harms the other, trust becomes broken, fear takes over the abused spouse, and one begins to wonder what else the abuser is capable of. When physical abuse leads to divorce, it is common for the abused spouse to file for a protective order along with the divorce petition.

3.0 Conclusion

3.1 Question 1

Women need to better emphasize dressing modestly to the females in their sphere of influence. Women can use magazine pictures or TV clips to start a discussion with other women about modesty. Women need to make sure they're dressing and living modestly.  Help men live holy lives by the way you dress.  We're assaulted with sex every day.  We're already trained (by culture) to think sexually, so don't make us endure it at any place.  There's still great power in concealing your physical beauty. If you're a mom, don't underestimate your influence over your girls in the way they think about themselves and your boys in the way they think about women.  The father's role is vital too.  If fathers start instilling the virtues of modesty while their children are young, then these same fathers might not fret as much when their sons and daughters blossom into teens.  If a man already has a teen daughter, he can hopefully still shape her outlook on her body.  He must show her love, but remain firm that she isn't free to dress like a streetwalker.  And he can have the same positive influence on his sons, teaching them to respect women and to cherish sex as a gift of marriage. Train your children now while they're young.  Teach them not just to dress modestly but to think modestly.  After all, modesty is a heart issue.   Dressing modestly won't get you into heaven, but it might help keep some men out of hell.  If what you're wearing to church is immodest, it's probably too immodest to wear anywhere else, and vice versa.  But this article is about more than how you dress.  It's about being a person with a pure heart.  Modesty is part of your character and will express itself in how you walk, what you say, what you wear, and how you bend down to pick something up. 

3.2 Question 2

In conclusion, there are a lot of reasons leading to divorce between two people. Nowadays, many couples get married when they are too young to understand the marriage life. In my opinion, the government or family should have policy to their children in order to reduce the rate of divorce.